Making New Year’s resolutions is when an individual decides to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their lives. Which is well and good, but I also think it’s a set up for failure for most. The first three days or so you find yourself trying to change, but then by the end of the week your back to all your old habits. For example: eating bad, not working out, or even thinking negative. To each its own I prefer to set goals and when I say goals I mean MENTAL GOALS, realistic goals! also, my thoughts are, why wait for the New Year? If three months before the New Year you want to change something…do it then, not later.
One more thing no one can tell what’s going to happen in they’re future. There will be sticks and stones thrown into the mix of your life. How do you bounce back? I do believe you should absolutely be optimistic, but leave a little room for disappointment. You have a better chance of succeeding and reach your goal(s).
When I started the New Year Tag for 2017, it wasn’t for show. I indeed needed to work on somethings. One major thing for me was confidence and self-awareness. In 2016 I was already working on identifying the issue I struggled with and the tools I would need to become more confident and self-aware. For me this approach not only help me reflect, it helped me focus and like I said before on realistic goals.
Without further ado, Here's check out my 2018 NEW YEAR TAG... I encourage you to do a tag also. I’m not suggesting you post your tag on YouTube or a blog like myself. Unless this is something you want to do, but I do suggest getting a journal and starting your journey
Here the questions I answered for the New Years’ 2018
1. Biggest accomplishment of 2017
2. Best Blessings/Memory of 2017
3. Biggest obstacle of 2017
4. Top 5 Favorite beauty products of 2017
5. Ummmm…Bloopers from 2017
6. Favorite Mainstream and/or Non-Mainstream You Tuber(s)
7. Most memorable phrase(s) from the year 2017
8. Lessons learned from 2017
9. Goals for 2018
10. What I’m looking forward to in the New Year 2018
My favorite You-Tubers of 2017
- Encyclopedia Of Us
- Jayla Koriyan TV
- The Daily Davidson
Wednesday, November 22, 2017 9:30pm my phone rang and on the caller ID Amanda and Khalif was on my screen. I wasn’t prepared to receive what would be the worst call of my life. The words out my sister Nahshae’s mouth, crying in hurt “Anjanae, Khalif is dead... He dead! And then the called dropped. I screamed and pleaded with God “please let this not be true.” My husband ran to my side asking what happen and I couldn’t talk other than to utter the words “my brother, my brother”. Frantically trying to call Amanda, Nahshae, and my mom’s phone back. No one picked up. My next call was to my Aunt Gina asking her “please, Aunt Gina go over to my brother’s house and see what’s going on”. I would have gone myself, but I live in New York and they were in Delaware. Thirty Minutes or so which seem like forever Aunt Gina Confirmed it was my brother who was lying lifeless in his house. I know the holy books says Lean not on your own understanding, but for the sake of me I questioned WHY! WHY! He was only 23 years old and was leaving behind my 2 1/2-year-old nephew.
I only a moment to mourn before I jumped into being the rock I needed to be for my family. I had to take over and make sure all went well with my brother’s Funeral arrangements. In a time like this I had all kind of non-sense come my way, but I had to continue to be strong no matter what. Death brings out the ugliest in people and then their true colors are revealed. Even the ones you thought cared for you the most.
On Saturday December 2, was my brother’s funeral and final resting… and of course we had some class acts, but I never gave them the action they wanted. That night I went into shut down mode at least that’s what I thought, but that’s a story I’ll share for another time.
Truth be told there’s no right or wrong way to mourn, but I absolutely wanted crawled up and didn’t want to do anything. In that very moment I had a choice. Drown in my depression or live in the present and don’t worry about being perfect. My dear friend/sister Janiece voice played over and over in my head, “It’s ok to be down, but don’t stay there”.
Sunday December 3, I woke up and started straightening up and even went to Costco with my family. Monday December 4, I worked, and Tuesday December 5 I attended Tot Time with my Zeemer. I felt overwhelmed with the condolences, but I understand it was love and support. At that moment it was overwhelming and realizing all over again my brother really isn’t here. I stayed for a little while and then went home.
I know some would say and think that I should’ve given myself more time and then there are the ones that said they would have done the same thing, but I felt if I stayed in it too long. I would’ve drowned in depression, sorrow, and pain.
Now, let’s fast forward three weeks after my brother’s death. No there’s no way to prepare yourself for death nor have a blueprint to dealing with how to mourn. I still have my moments when I Cry, but I don’t ask Why anymore. I can honestly say that my faith and will to live in the present keeps me going. I also know that to be absent from the body is to be present with God. I can’t be selfish, and I must lean on God’s every word.